Decision Fatigue by Phoenix of Elder Mountain: The up and coming adults in their mid life transformation is a specific issues for the generation of Pluto in Libra which is a group born between 1971 and 1982 (45 years old down to the age 34). This wide group generation of people have to content with Libra issues in their archetype regardless of their sign. In the bigger picture of their adulthood, they are also entering in their early to mid-forties which is a time of leaving youth and in the fullness of the summer of their adult season.
The younger Libra generation is reaching full adulthood (37-45) now, and at the Midlife Crisis and Transformation part of their life and life is asking them to make “important decisions based on right relationship to find balance” more than other generations. The group older than the Libra group are the Pluto in Virgo generation (1957 – 1970) who at their midlife had to contend and deal with Virgo’s archetype of Health & Communications and getting things in order and structured.
Libra, Leo and Scorpio are the three “social, love, and partnership relationship signs” (sun or moon), verses the family relationship signs of Cancer, Capricorn and Taurus and the Libra generation actually needs its mirrors of friends, partnerships and social partnerships in order to see the self more clearly. This of course can increase the amount of decisions, especially if married with children or raising children within a divorced home. But to work out peer issues is the best way for Libra energy to get down to the root reflections within conflict that other signs do not have to deal with as much.
I found many of the Decision Fatigue articles out on the web and newspapers like Huffington and NY Time are written by men and have a more battle and hero dialogue and examples and that didn’t seem to cover the more emotional issues of women’s issues of interpersonal relationship scenario which are so dominant in women’s lives. I thought I would share the emotionally draining fatigue that women (and some men) must deal with in this particular age group (generation).
The Pluto in Libra (45-34) group are here to learn:
Although most indecision comes with the Mutable signs (Sagittarius, Gemini, Pisces and Virgo), the Libra generation must contend with relationship itself and work out triangle issues. In decision making, decision fatigue refers to the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual after a long duration of decision making and has reached exhaustion in responsibility or doubled responsibility if divorced. This is now understood as one of the major causes of irrational trade-offs in decision making.
For instance, judges in court have been shown to make less favorable decisions later in the day than early in the day by a study of Psychologists. Decision fatigue may also lead us to make poor choices with emotional issues at home and become enablers not only of one’s own behavioral issues, which are draining but also passing it onto their children in their emotional relationships. It seems when we need the most clarity in life at the midlife crisis is when we have the least.
There is a paradox in that “people who lack choices seem to want them and often will fight for them,” yet at the same time, “people find that making many choices can be psychologically and emotionally aversive.” Decision Fatigue” can lead people to avoid decisions entirely, a phenomenon called “Decision Avoidance” or projecting it onto a spouse to make all the decisions and then becoming angry it wasn’t done the way the other spouse wished it to be done. “Passive Aggressive Indecision Fatigue” is another by product syndrome on top of the many issues that come at this age.
The Virgo in Pluto group had to deal with the first wave of this, with the on set of “Chronic Fatigue Syndrome” and in the 90s and 00s the holistic healers had a really good success rate with energy work and cranial-sacral work with clients. But many Libra in Pluto people tend to be healthy physically when they apply a routine such as yoga class or meditation and don’t show the same physical signs of stress as the previous generation had with the up and coming fatigue issue. The Libra generation is showing signs that this is less physical exhaustion of the emotional kind and more exhaustion of the mental sign of distress, mixed with the emotional relationship issues.
Decisions are a mental body process in general, but true “right relationship” in our life, our family, friends and our world are instinctual relationships based on our “known values” and instinct comes forth from our emotional body. If we do not know what our values are, this can be troublesome because the mental body is linear, it cannot see or perceive personal decision making outside of a linear box. The medicine then becomes indecision with the separate issues of emotional psychological issues. One must be addressed first before both can be healed and in any holistic healing, the mental body must always be addressed with disciplines to quiet the mind first. This is where the trouble begins for this particular generation in this particular stressful issue.
This can lead to Decision Fatigue, not only personally but adding to a complex and overwhelming modern technological age of too much information, which at midlife, its a third layer on top of an already busy life in the ‘fullness of life’ of a three stages of a persons life. This can lead to bad decisions when one is exhausted or no decisions of meaning at the most important time of life. Learning to free up some decision making space and learning to say “no” in huge amounts is important. This is because the Pluto in Libra generation has much more relationship issues than they recognize. A lot more to the many, many relationship and life decisions that are knocking them off balance day by day, once the thirties are over.
Impulse Purchasing: Decision fatigue can influence irrational impulse purchases as well. During a trip to the supermarket, trade-off decisions regarding prices and promotions can produce decision fatigue, hence by the time the shopper reaches the cash register, less willpower remains to resist impulse purchases of snacks. Social psychologist also found that it is directly tied to low glucose levels, and that replenishing them restores the ability to make effective decisions.
So if you are having overwhelming decision fatigue making you too tired from the chaos within, i heard a great interview on the radio with the two women who wrote this book on the left. I am not a reader but I know a lot of people find value and these two women who I thought had great ideas, and great value and ideas proven to work, and how to work with decision fatigue.
Please do pass along this helpful information if you know someone suffering from indecision who are stressed out or sleeping a lot because they are overwhelmed.
It can add one more puzzle peace to your healing!