The Introvert and Empath

By Phoenix of Elder Mountain – Being a sensitive makes a person highly sensitive to the energy and emotional energy swirling all around them, which naturally tends to make them withdraw socially and for other to withdraw in intervals from social situations, or festivals etc. Sensitive’s and Empath’s can be both introverts or extroverts. Introverts usually associating themselves with being unsocial, but that isn’t 100% true. I have seen many introverts change as they get older, but carry childhood scripts that they are anti-social.
People can also fall under the “extroverted introvert” who can socially function well but definitely need their retreat time, to full recharge without others around. They must have their amount of quiet time. Younger introverts may need more time away from people because they are young, especially those under 30. There are many misconceptions about being an introverted or extroverted. Its not an all or nothing trait and it does evolve. Shut in, when one is older, can also be an introvert development of old age, even if the person was very social when they were an adult.

Extroverts get energized from other people. They tend to shut down when they are alone and all their fears arise. Introverts get energized by being alone. They get drained sometimes when being over stimulated by other people energy. Those who are overstimulated by emotional energy, especially with those who drink, smoke pot or do drugs, are one of the two epitomes of being an empath.

Is it even possible for an extrovert or introverts to be Empathic? Yes, everyone has feelings, from mild to sensitive to extreme, but what makes the empath different than the sensitives, is they literally have to carry other peoples emotions inside their own emotional body. Emotional people from mild to severe do not, which can fall under Introverts and Extroverts as well.
Empath and empathy are two different words and don’t mean the same thing, one is a description of actions taken, the other is the embodiment of inner feeling (and not actions).

Some introverts are aware that they must make a sacrifice to hang out with extroverts and what it entails. We also know when extroverts are trying to stay busy running around planning endless activities in order to avoid feelings, introverts just retreat and take a break to regenerate.


Here are some myths about Introverts and Empaths…

Introvert Myth: Introverts are Shy – Learning to meditate, one learns to be silent and live a quiet life, does that mean they are introverts after they have mastered Zen? No, of course not, so being quiet and being shy, although very different, do not mean all introverts are shy. Some can have natural shyness which is more retreat and non-confrontational or even less emotional. Many introverts can be more quiet around others when younger, but as they get older they become much more comfortable if they are aware of their limits and have boundaries.

Shyness can be included in some introvert people but not necessarily a trait of introversion. Some of the issues for an older introvert is that emotionally they haven’t let go of old ideas and beliefs about the self of introversion from the past, even though they have moved on from being a more extreme introvert, into a mature adult who is more social and can manage it. Letting go of old patterns of how one feels there “were” in any scenario is big job for most of us.

Introvert Myth: Introverts like to be alone  – While most introverts are energized by being alone and get to flow in their life without any interruptions and inconvenience, they do like social events with friends and family to a degree. Introverts can act out many ways that seem negative socially, just because they tend to be more overwhelmed than the average person or empath. Social relationships for the sake of not being alone is not really their life or lifestyle, they can be alone and still be a functioning introvert.

Empath Creed

Empath Myth: All emotional people are Empathic – Not true, everyone who is sensitive in their emotions, or easily expresses emotions such as anger or crying, doesn’t mean they are an empath. It means they are very sensitive within their feeling and emotional body. Empaths are not that emotional, but hanging out with an emotional person who wants to cry but hides it will effect the empath, as their emotional energy slowly will enter the empaths body and then they will start to cry for no reason.

This confuses young empaths especially when they were happy and joyful a few minutes ago and their emotional mood changed immediately for no reason. This is not bi-polar, that is something completely different than involves the mind and the emotional body. Empaths are strictly dealing with the emotional body and boundaries of their emotional energy body and how to keep it clear of others emotional sicknesses, while working on healing their own. 

Empath Myths:

Empaths are Psychic. Not true, the empath nature is intuitive of the emotional body and the psychics gifts come from the mental body. The difficulty is that empaths must practice trusting and believing their emotional energy symbolism and gut feelings as a viable source of information and can’t really put so much trust in the mental body. Psychics deal with mental and telepathic knowledge and they must also develop their skills and learn to trust.

Scanning others emotional body is a highly complex issue to get correct, and it brings much emotional information as well as energy that is sickness and shadows from other people. That is why the empath must be sober and be on a devout self healing journey. It takes a long time for the empath to learn to heal their own emotion wounds, which are the true block to their gifts that flow from the empath nature.

As a shaman in my group soul retrievals I have found it very interesting over the past 30 years that the only spiritual people that would never come to any of my circle’s were psychics. All other types of people like healers, Buddhists, metaphysicians, massage therapists and meditation people, Jungian practitioners etc but not one psychic. 

If anyone has insights on their own introvert or empath nature, please do share.

Articles on the Empath by Phoenix:

Empaths: A Hug Free Spiritual Diet

The Introvert and the Empath:

Soul of the Empath:

An Empath’s Conflict & Starlight:

The Empathic Apprentice:

Crystals are not for Empaths, HSP or Dreamers:

If you are interested in working with Phoenix write to: 

6 Comments Add yours

  1. saymber says:

    I am an Empath and do better as an introvert sort. Even as much as I’ve tried to, my boundaries and protection skills are pretty flimsy at times and can get me into trouble. I get “hitchers” I call them who enjoy my porous energy fields. I’ve written about some of my experiences on my blog. Thank you for writing this – there are so many people who don’t know what is happening to them as an Empath or Highly Sensitive Person. A couple of links and there are several online groups that offer support: and


    1. Thanks amber for sharing your story. A lot of my work is the disciplined healing emotional path for those I work with. Groups are great for the first steps to share with like emotional people, but when one is ready, real healing with real healers is what makes the greatest difference because karma, emotions and the mental body must be worked out separately to get to the more depth of healing the emotional body. Once healed, one is free and there are little to no blocks to the perception body. The soul is where the pain comes from and its filtered into the emotional body. There are step that have to be mastered in order to begin to purify the emotional body and the soul body : ) either way its a long journey.


  2. raventooth says:

    I can relate to the introvert/extrovert… I love solitude, but I also gain much happiness from being around friends. There is also something, I remember from when I was young, like half-way dozing on your school desk. There was something nice about the cacophony of the others all around me that gave comfort in a time when I am nearly dreaming and mostly internalized.


    1. I am both as well, and totally relate to the sleeping in school : )


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