By Phoenix of Elder Mountain – We empaths are a complicated mess for many years until we get serious about our the commitment to our emotional healing journey. The main signs that must all be present for a real empath are:
1. You forgive easily;
2. You cry way too often (or);
3. You are angry way to often or both;
4. Your moods change because who you’re
with, you become their feelings;
5. You have more guilt than normal (guilt in
thoughts, feelings, depression etc.);
6. Its hard to let go (of someone, an emotional
behaviors, repetitive cycles of emotions);
7. Love water, swimming in rivers, baths
because they are soothing / cleansing
8. And for some, love nature where you feel
calm and you feel refreshed.
The Empath is the true nature of birth, transition, death and rebirth living, harmony through crisis and letting go (when no practiced feels like death and unstable. Learn to let go is my wisdom and practice it every day. When there are too much emotions, too much anger, you are really just turning against yourself and have built your own prison.
Someone had asked a question about changing from a mental government, to an empath government. My answer was no, because the path of the empath most of their life is very difficult to attain groundedness emotionally and takes a long time to heal. Empaths have so many emotional issues that it would be added stresses and deeper emotional conflicts unexpressed to run a mind/body world.
The empath is unique for one reason, their emotions are so deep and they can feel everything (which generally comes out as a truth sayer about how they feel, and the world rejects that, so they struggle with a root issue of: REJECTION.
When they start learning how to stop rejecting themselves, their prisons begin to unlock one by one. And their eternal soul depends isn’t so stifled by their intense emotions and it becomes more free to express the authentic self. The world has always denied Empath’s realities, sensitivities and truth because they would prefer to live in emotional denial.
When we communicate with others about our emotion and our emotional body whether they like the truth or not, then the emotional body and soul body start communicating together and this is one of the expressions of an empaths gifts which is DREAMS.
Anyone who has dedicated to even two years Zen or Buddhist meditation with daily discipline, knows how noisy and bossy the mind is once they see it. Without training the mind first, the empath cannot heal old wounds and emotions. The mental body can be settled with practices otherwise the emotional body and the mental body create chaos and what we create or happens naturally in regards to this, destroys our life and makes us emotional messes.
The Emotional body on the other hand, the great positive rather than the undisciplined curse, has an evolution that is very different than mind/body. Its path is one of self nurturing, one of love, self love, and healing ones emotional issues, whether they are this life’s issues, past (emotional) lifetime’s issues or a little of both. That is when we use our feelings (for good) like healing others, nurturing and comforting others in distress but we must always heal ours first.
The Emotional body’s journey or ultimate journey is so one can get to have a mystical and magical relationship to their soul body, or on the reverse, to heal that nasty karma that made you an empath in the first place. And we have several souls, but they are very elusive in regards to this karma and dharma relationship.
Those of us who have out of body experience(s) know by experience that there is no emotions when we die or when we are out of body, there is just emotional just peace… the darker side of that is the most dangerous side of out of bodies is “escapism” based on personal fears, and hence why many addicts go from drugs, alcohol etc to fool and trick themselves thinking that shamanic plants and pot is positive.
Its not, these things destroy the empath completely. We learn to heal without those things, they take us far from our path of stability. Most empaths can’t do drugs, shamanic plants etc because it makes them feel sick. And never use crystals, that is like a daily stab of a knife in our astral systems and nervous system.
Escapism is a Neptunian reality, because too much suffering hurts and drains us after a decade or two, so we seek softer lights rather than harsher or bright ones. So many seek perception altering plants to escape, or escaping into our dreams, but so much of this can lead us into shadow spaces without the conscious awareness of our soul and her fragility, and that shadow is allowed into our souls spaces in waking life, as well as our night dreams.
Creativity and Nature are two of the most ancient ways to express emotional body ssues in a softer and more positive way, like art, dance, song, movement and creative healing. Also spiritual disciplines that dissolve stress.
The emotional body of the empath and our interior soul, have a symbiotic relationship that can never really be separated except from perception altering plants/drugs which eradicates the soul slowly and pushes the interior soul out of the body. Our journey is to unite soul and emotional body in a healthy way. This is extremely difficult and there are no shortcuts.
As a dreamer (shaman), i see so many soul astral bodies of living people wandering lost, and fragmented (our soul we were born with should be both protected and safe inside us). There are fragmented parts from child abuse, shamanic plants abuses, addictions, and thus our soul gets shoved out by theses things and literally, this part of our soul follows along outside the person like a hungry ghost.
A psychic would say its a dead ghost that has no relativity to the person other than a spirit helper or an ancestor, but shamans know better than using 1300 ce middle ages applications of the dead aspects of living people.
People tend not to know the many difference between an empath and an intuitive / psychic medium type. Empaths can be intuitives but its extremely rare for intuitives to be empaths…. even though both have emotions and an emotional body.
The structures I work with as a folk healer and empath was to spend decades healing my emotional issues, real relations, and also learning to grounding them with spiritual disciplines like zen and the bardo, otherwise the soul aspects, both the mental astral body and the soul astral body within, are at risk all the time without the cognitive mind even aware.
The other soul bodies we have is the shadow or demon body from our past life karmic fragments, animism souls (dark or light), and the divine or higher self, but for any of these to be connected to even in the smallest way, much less even understanding it from experience, we have to start at the beginning of the root self to heal, to speak our emotional truth even if the mind trashers cut us down and apart.
The emotional body and the soul body (the one that is within) is always trying to communicate to us in her ancient languages of dreams, signs, syncronicities, symbols nature, animals,. This is why before the patriarch the goddess cultures were symbolically birds, animals, nature, woman / moon, and woman, woman being our feminine or our soul.
DAILY PRACTICES AND TIPS FOR EMPATHS:
A hug free diet (no hugs) is one positive way to get your personal space under control. Also one can assist that by carrying a bottle of water with them when they go to social functions, to absorb everyone’s emotional issues (negativity). At work, at home, at a spiritual circle, sweat lodge, when you get a massage etc. Works every time but it has to be a REAL & DISCIPLINED commitment.
I was born at the 100% level empath, real empaths suffer immensely in many ways, until they get a grip on their real issues: their real emotional diseases, their lack of personal boundaries or defensive boundaries; becoming aware of their own victim consciousness; or going to the mind-defense systems because their emotional karmic body has suffered child abuse or their own abuses from past life karma, that have left them with a disabling defense mechanisms.
If you feel bad about saying zen or martial arts with the hug abstinence to gain emotional energy awareness, then actually do it once a week or once a month as a practice, and then you are telling the truth. I have seen a lot of scapegoating in social media empath groups because they fear being “exposed” of their authentic self and truth to share their own shadow, even with strangers. And that is understandable, but to “defend” ones fears is the opposite of healing ones fears.
Hopefully social media empaths will someday seek real healers and spiritual circles in person, face to face to heal some of these issues that are seen so easily on groups like facebook, which is emotional defensiveness 101. Or the extreme opposite of compassion overload.
Empaths deal with real emotional sickness and some on the verge of emotional disease and breakdowns,and that is what brings us to crisis which is the real state in which we have to heal because we no longer have a choice. Undoing this ball of string since childhood is a real hard journey to heal and the more we heal, the more we expose of the self and more deeper healing. Its an endless cauldron for real empaths.
Phoenix is a retired empath, folk healer, shaman and exorcist with forty years of experience with clients, students and apprentices.